How Did I Get Here, And Where Is The Next Turn?

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Brought up Feb 18, 2016

Joy and Sorrow...

This had been such a good week, over all, until last night.

I got to spend a lot of time with the little guy, watching him 2 days in a row, and even taking him to see my mom with the Girl Brat. The GB even made me chocolate covered strawberries, the only thing I got for Valentine's. Still, it was nice.

Last night, I spent more time with the little fella. He has such personality and humor. He's wacky.

When I got home, I booted up this pc, not thinking about much but farming on my game and maybe getting to bed early. Been having a lot of trouble sleeping lately.

I had forgotten a message I sent to someone a while ago, and was surprised at first to see an answer from her.

The news she gave me was devastating.

See, I had this friend from church, Connie, that I had not heard from in quite a while. The person I sent a message to was a dear friend of hers, and I was wondering how our friend was doing.

The last news I had about her was not from her, but from another friend who told me that Connie's husband had passed away from the cancer he had been fighting for a while.

Last night, I learned that Connie had passed away...

Weeks before her husband.

I spent the rest of the time I was awake wracking my brain last night.

Had I known Connie had passed?

Had I some how forgotten?

October 25, 2014...

Was it possible that I had gotten so wrapped up in myself, so self absorbed, that it had simply slipped my mind?

And, what kind of friend goes for over a year with out even checking on someone, unless they did know they were gone and had simply let the news slip away?

I continued to berate myself in this manner, even in my sleep, I guess, considering I woke feeling even worse.

At work, I was on edge.

I was so angry with myself, convinced that I was such an awful person, no one should come near me for fear of being ripped to sheds.

I had an idea.

It came to me at work that I remembered sending Connie a message when her husband died.

Now, if I had known Connie was gone, would I have done that?

Maybe that memory was just a way of denying...

I got home a little while ago, and went straight to Facebook.

If there was no message, then I was really scum.

There was a message...

"Connie, darling, I am so sorry about Larry. I just now saw where your friend Patty posted a comment. I have been so wrapped up in my own mini dramas, I just noticed you missing. I wish I had known sooner. My heart breaks for you, honey. I will be praying for you all. Call me if you want, or message me here when you can so I know how you are doing. Love you."

So, now, with tears in my eyes, I am reeling at this news.

But, what kind of person doesn't check up on their friends more often?

It's as if my sweet friend died last night.

I miss her, and have missed her chats, but thought she was just grieving hard, as many I know are.

Now, I see that it is I who is grieving.

I have to try harder to be a better friend to those I love...


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